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#MediationQuickTips: Demonstration Mediation Video – Correct & Incorrect Practice. Issue 9

Mediation Quick Tips

Welcome to this ‘Mediation Quick Tips’ Newsletter Issue 9

Demonstration Mediation Video: Correct & Incorrect Practice

Exploring Thinking & Inferences

The brief was to demonstrate a mediation process where mistakes in practice will be made and where members of the audience are invited to comment on screen or verbally. 

This is a demonstration roleplay done by Gerry O’Sullivan at The Mediator’s Institute of Ireland’s annual conference in October 2023. 

 

 It is divided into three sections:

  1. Mediation Quick Tips
  2. Theory behind the Quick Tips
  3. How to apply this theory to practice
Next O’Sullivan Solutions online advanced mediation courses:

March 6, 7, 13, 14, 2024

September 19, 20, 26, 27, 2024

Irish Standard Time: / GMT: 1.30pm -5.30pm
Eastern Standard Time: 8.30am – 12.30pm
Pacific Standard Time: 5.30am – 9.30am 

1. Mediation Quick Tips

We cannot create a paradigm shift in the thinking of mediation participants unless we find out what they are thinking.

We need to take the time to listen closely to the exact words used by a participant, reflect back the words used, unless they are toxic words, in which case we need to reframe them by taking the toxic out but leaving the truth in. Then we need to ask questions about those words.  

2. Theory behind Mediation Quick Tips

In this video demonstration, I deviate from the conventional mediation framework and do not hear the full narratives of participants at this joint session, followed by listing their issues and going through them one by one. 

Instead, I concentrate on their thinking, as well as the inferences and assumptions they made at the start of their developing negative view of each other. 

The goal is to demonstrate how our initial inferences and assumptions, based on our own unique paradigm, can impact our perception and interpretation of all subsequent events. When this is done, it leads to mutual understanding and creates the context whereby remaining issues are solved more easily.

This methodology can be used at appropriate times throughout a mediation process.  

3. How to apply this theory to practice?

Demonstration Mediation Video – Correct & Incorrect Practice: Exploring Thinking & Inferences

Note: There is some blurriness on the screen for the first minute, this occurred at filming stage  – apologies.  

The concepts of using ‘Thought Flow Tracking’ and ‘Journey of Inference Questions’ to create a paradigm shift in the thinking of mediation participants, as demonstrated in this film, can be learned by signing up for the next ‘Advanced Mediation Questions’ online training

Next O’Sullivan Solutions online advanced mediation courses:

March 6, 7, 13, 14, 2024

September 19, 20, 26, 27, 2024

Irish Standard Time: / GMT: 1.30pm -5.30pm
Eastern Standard Time: 8.30am – 12.30pm
Pacific Standard Time: 5.30am – 9.30am